Spiral Daily 181

What if, you said simply ‘Ouch’ when you feel someone is insensitive? Works like magic, try it.  This is uncomplicated, clear and without judgement. The best questions foster understanding, spark innovation, diffuse negative conflict, and build influence...

Spiral Question

How big is it really? Whether a problem or a project, is it as big as you think? In the middle of the night, something was making a ruckus on my roof.  It sounded really big.  My first thought was a bear, but we don’t have bears here.  I got up, turned on...

Spiral Daily 162

What if your greatest irritation was your greatest teacher?   What would you be learning? About yourself, about a system, about your choices? What resistance needs to change? Develop Power with Grace.  Asking thoughtful questions is one aspect. The best questions...

Spiral Daily 144

How do you OWN your frustration? A good question to ask yourself when you are frustrated is, “What is my fear behind the frustration?” If you can communicate and understand your fear, you OWN it as your thing. If you share your fear rather than your...

Spiral Daily 135

What do you know – that you do not do? If you’ve heard me speak, you’ve heard  knowledge is NOT power, applied knowledge IS power. Can you name one thing you know is important that you don’t do? Or something you know is potentially destructive...