A banana can’t really hurt you.
I responded a little defensively; I was not as gracious as I would have liked. It caused me to reflect about why something so small could cause me to feel defensive.
I believe it may be the same reason someone might react to:
- A bump in a crowd
- An unsolicited request or suggestion
- A change in plans
All of these situations are most likely as harmless as a banana! Yet even a subtle defensive block may take a benign event and create a negative issue.
But why the reaction in the first place? I think the following can come into play, we:
- Need space
- Assume negative intent
- Allow past experiences to influence our present assumptions
When does a banana become a sword? Whenever we choose. Next time, you find yourself even subtly blocking a perceived attack, Spiral —- turn that banana into a smoothie —- an honorable acknowledgement, example: ‘Ahh…yes and thank you, no’