You know that person who annoys you?
What about them annoys you?

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Both appreciation and criticism often are reflections of yourself
as we tend to project what is hidden inside us onto others. 

A fun way to think about this is “You spot it you got it.”
What emotionally annoys or delights you in others is likely a hidden aspect in you.

This is a pychological principle called projection. What we see in others is what we are unable or unwilling to see in ourselves.

For example, I notice I feel annoyed when people don’t follow through.
Low and behold as I self-reflect – there are areas I don’t follow through!

I have found this to be a great, though uncomfortable, way to self-reflect and grow.


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