What if, what you say or think in private has a far reaching ripple effect?
Particularly, if there is a lot of emotion behind the thoughts or words.
What is talked about or complained about expands; venting adds more energy to the issue.
Consider shifting your focus to solutions rather than complaint.
Pausing to consider what you can appreciate also shifts your focus.
A good filter is to evaluate if you’d want your words on the evening news!
Centering is a powerful tool to help.
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This is very helpful, Karen, for dealing with a chronic complainer in my life more constructively!
Oh yes! A couple of questions to help redirect are: “What would you like instead?” “What can you/we/I do differently for a different result?” Glad this was helpful Christine!