What if instead of saying ‘No’ you sought to ‘Know’?
‘No’ stops momentum. Seeking to ‘Know’ maintains or accelerates momentum.
How do you do this?
Try:
Asking questions is a great way to increase ‘knowing’.
Setting intention to ‘learning the best ideas’ and ‘engaging all’ gets you going in the right direction.
Being centered puts you in the emotional state to do so!
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Instead of saying NO to an outside of the box idea…how about “That’s an interesting idea…can you tell me more?” Works for me.
Great response!! And, requires a lot of self-confidence and center to remember! Thank you.
Practice mindfulness. Do your own research. Don’t just take someone’s interpretation. Develop your own.
Terry, I love your perspective on this! Do you ever find yourself in a situation where you have something to offer and the other person is not at all interested? I’ve been experimenting with rather than saying ‘no’ I want to seek to ‘know’. As a good problem solver myself I have a lot of viewpoints, I find sometimes it’s easy to say no to others too fast.