How do you know if you really understand?


Assume you don’t.

Particularly with peple you think you know well, it’s easy to fill in what we think they think!
I’ve been wrong so many times.

In this time of such disruption, I believe it’s more important to truly connect and bear witness to others.

My daughter is home for a couple months. It has become almost a meditation for me to stop, focus, and listen.
Also, we’ve agreed to not talk until we know the other has shifted focus to be fully present in the conversation.

It requires:
Begin with getting centered and if needed asking questions:

Tell me more…
What do you think of …..?
How would you do….. differently?
What surprised you about what happened/resulted?

Then just listen…and be fascinated to learn!

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