A simple typo of ‘north’ instead of ‘south’ in the directions set me up to be late to a meeting.
As a stickler for punctuality, I could feel my heart begin to pound while my mind raced thinking of how to explain my tardiness.
Enter Spiral Impact.
The tension in my gut was a clear signal for me to breathe and center. As I did, it allowed me to relax enough to be capable of seeing both the error and solution easily. My initial anxiety had caused a temporary ‘blindness’. Does that ever happen to you?
Turned out, I wasn’t late. Breathing and centering saved the day.
However, when I reflect on the experience, what I find most interesting is what I would have said to defend why I was late..when I was in fear…before I centered. Had I shared that with my client it could have been detrimental to the relationship as it was about his directions
As I continue to discipline the words I speak, I find this question extremely helpful to ask myself prior to speaking or writing:
What is it like to be on the receiving end of my communication?
- What is the intention of your communication?
- If someone can’t change something, there is no need to comment, i.e., a person’s height, age, state of relationship
- How will the person feel after you’ve spoken?
- Do your words honor yourself and others?
- Are you clear, or are you thinking out loud? What does your listener leave understanding?
- Does your message add value or make a difference?
What other considerations can you add?